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Mental Health Awareness Month- Postpartum Anxiety

Postpartum Anxiety (Postpartum Panic Disorder)- when the sufferer feels nervous and has recurring panic attacks.

OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder)- having a tendency towards orderliness, perfectionism, and great attention to detail.

First Time Mom Anxiety- How I’m Feeling

The definition defined above is when the sufferer feels nervous and has recurring panic attacks. I whole heartedly agree with this. I feel nervous ALL the time. I feel like no matter what I have done in the last 4 weeks, I have been overly nervous. I just start shaking and crying. It gets really bad at nighttime right before bed. I think it’s because during the day I don’t have time to think about much between trying to catch up on housework and sleep, and take care of my son, and on top of trying to do things that make me sane, like take my hot baths, my skin care routine, running my blog, and exercising. It’s actually a lot. So when I go to lay down at night, I just feel this overwhelming wave of emotions come over me, and I can’t help myself. It doesn’t happen every night but on some nights, it does. It makes me feel terrible. 

I also feel like my OCD has ramped up since being home. Maybe because I don’t have work or anything else to keep me busy, and being in quarantine definitely DOES NOT help. I feel like if one little thing is like out of place, it makes me want to spazz out. It’s not a good feeling at all. I feel like I have been cooped up for way to long.  If you have this OCD problem, then you know how I feel! It’s rough! 

Bringing Awareness

The more that I sit and think about it, I don’t necessarily think there is lack of awareness, I think there is more people in denial. I mean there is always something going on in someone’s head, we can’t quite rate that on a scale because it’s always going to be different than what we ourselves are going through. So there is different kinds of awarenesses we can bring to certain/different situations. I believe no matter what though, you should be kind. No matter the situation/problem. I believe that everyone should be courteous of how others feel and always take into consideration, that even though this person doesn’t seem like there is anything wrong, that maybe there is. So just be kind. That always makes someone feel better, which in return brings awareness to the fact that you weren’t mean and took in their feelings without discerning what they feel and rating it. 

Things That Calm Me

A few things tend to calm me down when I’m having a tiny anxiety attack. 

  • Telling my husband about it. No, like seriously. Talk about it. If you say it’s happening, then it’s really happening. The only way to feel better is to talk it out. This way you can get your thoughts in order. 
  • Take a hot bath. This always helps me tremendously. The hot water to me is so relaxing! Plus I ALWAYS feel so much better and clean after! 
  • Read a book. When I open someone else’s story and problems, mine disappear for a short amount of time! 
  • Snuggling my babe! This is a new one, but now that my little boy is here, one look from him and it makes me feel so much better. Those dishes and laundry can wait. They make you crazy anyway. 

My Advice

The older I get, the more I understand this whole mental health thing. When I was younger I guess I was constantly thinking about what I was doing right then and there and not about tomorrow or next week, really I didn’t think. I didn’t think before I did anything. Therefore most of the time leaving my life a mess. Now I think WAY to much, and still feel like I don’t think enough or take things into consideration much, even though I do, way more than I should! This causes me anxiety. I’m more aware now of when I’m doing it, and I even tell myself when I’m doing it. 

My best advice for keeping the anxiety at bay, is to honestly take a deep breath and have common sense. Anytime I feel anxious, I think of things I do know. Or things I already feel in control of. This helps me logically think of a solution to my anxiety, and then I can control what’s in front of me or how I’m feeling at that moment.

Overview

I guess the point of this blog is to talk about how I’m feeling, and what I do to kind of control it. That’s the whole point of Mental Health Awareness right? You talk about it and that brings awareness. No one will ever know how you are really feeling unless you tell them. This in point, you are making them aware that you don’t feel good. It’s their reaction to hopefully be kind, and in return making us feel better. 

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  1. Britt | Shed Happens (@ShedHappenscmty)

    May 11, 2020 at 7:50 pm

    Thank you for being so open and vulnerable in sharing this. I am sure that there are a lot of mothers out there who will benefit from reading your post and knowing that they aren’t alone!

    1. AshleyRamey

      May 11, 2020 at 7:51 pm

      Thank you! I really hope so!

      1. Eve

        May 12, 2020 at 5:25 am

        This is a very interesting! I absolutely love how comfortable you are ! And I appreciate you being so open and honest and vulnerable with us thank you for this !

      2. AshleyRamey

        May 12, 2020 at 10:38 am

        That’s the only way to make awareness! I hope it helps the right person!

  2. Lisa Jones

    May 12, 2020 at 3:31 am

    Oh my goodness, I can 100% relate to this and have written a number of posts about it myself. I find that my anxiety really plays up when I go to bed too and actually makes me dread going to bed sometimes.
    Completely agree about snuggles with babe and talking to your partner. Even just saying to my husband that my anxiety is bad right now helps.
    Lockdown isn’t helping my anxiety either. Keeping busy is my way of keeping the anxiety at bay! ??

    1. AshleyRamey

      May 12, 2020 at 10:40 am

      Exactly! Take that away, and I get anxious! I hope you continue to do okay, and keep it at bay! 🙂

  3. Eleanor Pritchard

    May 12, 2020 at 3:32 am

    This is SUCH an important post for new mums and I am proud you are raising awareness and talking about your own mental health postpartum <3

    eleanorclaudie.com

    1. AshleyRamey

      May 12, 2020 at 10:39 am

      Thank you! I really hope it helps someone.

  4. piperhill

    May 12, 2020 at 4:04 am

    This is a great post! It’s always nice to see people opening up about their mental health and sharing their experience. I have a friend that has been suffering from her OCD a lot more since the lockdown too. I’m not sure what causes it to flair up more but I guess everyone’s mental health issues are being tested in this time. We can’t follow the usual advice of: visiting friends, getting out of the house etc etc. Thanks for posting!

    1. AshleyRamey

      May 12, 2020 at 10:39 am

      Yes! I think that has a lot to do with it! Of course! I hope it helps someone else.

  5. Becca

    May 12, 2020 at 5:23 am

    Thank you for sharing your story, I suffer from anxiety and bipolar II disorder, so I know how you feel about being nervous and shaking. My husband is my support and i feel that talking about It and sharing my story helps so much

    1. AshleyRamey

      May 12, 2020 at 10:38 am

      It really does! I hope you are doing well!

  6. Brooke

    May 12, 2020 at 9:43 am

    I am so sorry you are going through this. Having a baby is not easy. Please talk to your doctor for help because they have so much experience with this. I worried that my first child was going to die constantly. It seemed like everything was a danger. My second kid was easy peasy, because the overwhelming fear was gone. Good luck!

    1. AshleyRamey

      May 12, 2020 at 9:53 am

      Thanks so much for the advice!

  7. Ana

    May 12, 2020 at 12:02 pm

    My son is 14 and I remember the day we brought him home from hospital like it was yesterday. I don’t think I have ever been that scared… really I have been through rough times but looking at how tiny he was I just thought, what have I done! On day 3 I called my friend crying… she is a no nonsense type of gal and said to me “well I already have one, I’m not taking yours!”. When my girl was born 3 years later thinks that were huge before did not even register… You are right to talk about it and the more we do the better we can help other new mums!

    Thank you for sharing your story!

    1. AshleyRamey

      May 12, 2020 at 4:59 pm

      Yes! It’s so scary cause your totally responsible for a whole other teeny tiny human! I look at him growing everyday and it scares the shit out of me! I wouldn’t change being a mom for anything though, I love it. Just some days are harder than others! Thank you for commenting and sharing also! I call my best friend often cause she has a almost 2 year old and I’m like how the hell did you look like you weren’t scared? Hahaha. But yes. The more we talk, the better!

  8. Anika May

    May 15, 2020 at 2:12 pm

    Thank you for sharing this and being so open! I know it’s not an easy thing to do, but I love that you’re spreading awareness for something that affects so many people. It was nice to read about some of the things that calm you, so sweet ??

    Anika | chaptersofmay.com

  9. Natasha Evans

    May 18, 2020 at 10:22 am

    Thank you for being so open and sharing so much! It’s so important to raise awareness of this as it can affect so many.

    http://www.agirlwithview.co.uk

    1. AshleyRamey

      May 19, 2020 at 4:51 pm

      Of course! I hope it helps someone out!

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