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Nap Time- How to get Things Done- Mental and Beneficial!

It’s that time of the day and you are literally drowning in all things; chores, work, play time, outside time, eating and feeding, and etc. The kid just won’t take a nap and you just can’t get anything done. This is a 6 month update with how far along I’ve made it with being a mom, (basically surviving) and also how I get crap done during nap time. (When he’s actually taking a nap anyway.)

My son still takes about 3 1/2 naps a day. I put the 1/2 on there because sometimes he takes one at 6/7 PM on days when he’s real tired *inserts shocked face here* in which he still manages to sleep through the night. What do I do during nap time? I feel like it can get super overwhelming because sometimes you simply just have a lot of s*** to do. Honestly.

He’s at that age now (6 Months) where I just chuck him into the high chair and stick a bunch of toys in front of him, and I just race the clock because I know in about 20 minutes he’s going to be ready to get down from there and do something else. So how do we moms do it?

Well prioritize for one, right? What REALLY needs to be done and what can REALLY WAIT till the next time he’s down for the count. I don’t know how you guys prioritize but I put stuff into categories by what is going to make MY life and time easier and more free. What is going to give me that extra 10-15 minutes by myself to do something I want to do or work on? Why would I start on a chore that is going to take up to much of a time window that is unnecessary to what I am trying to accomplish, I can do that at the next nap time window. Or better yet, maybe never? Here’s a little example on what I ALWAYS put first on my list and WHY.

  1. Dishes/Clean Bottles- If the baby doesn’t eat on time, the baby is not happy, (at least my child isn’t.) Why would I make it harder on myself, because I decided to put dishes last on my to do list. (Yes everyone hates them, but they are kind of crucial when you have a baby.) I try to keep his bottles clean as much as possible. In all honesty it only takes about 10 minutes to do the dishes, so just do it, plus when you see that clean sink it’s like a breath of fresh air. “You need clean bottles anyway!”
  2. If you are a formula mom, make it ahead of time!! I always make a pitcher that holds (6) 6 oz bottles. I literally take out and pour. I just base it off of how much my son drinks in a day. Formula is good in the fridge for up to 24 hours. Just pour and go. It is a hassle opening up that formula can and scooping, and then stirring and then if you are like me, you warm it up first so the formula doesn’t clump together. I just can’t, it’s the most aggravating to me.
  3. Okay, now don’t try to be super mom by any means, if the baby has formula made and clean bottles, like honestly you are set. If you want to add in a little spiffiness, you could pick up the toys they played with, but you will just have to get them back out again. Another thing I do is have Little Baby Bum waiting on pause on the TV for when he wakes up because he needs a few minutes to wake up before he gets going again. This sets me up for when he wakes up. It really only takes me about 20-25 minutes max to finish that up so I can do something I really like or need to do.
  4. Most of the time after I get him set up for when he wakes up, I will turn over some laundry or make me something to eat. DON’T FORGET TO EAT! It’s an easy thing to do, and I am not perfect at it by any means. It can even be something small, but you will feel so much better overall.
  5. Is this making sense yet? Basically I haven’t included any other chores because honestly, Those are the ones that are the most important. Now you have the rest of the nap to get done what you want or sometimes I even lay down with my son.
  6. Fast forward to the next nap; Around this time, I just cleaned out the one bottle I just fed him and now my dishes are still done and not piled up and at least I have dry/clean clothes, and I am not that hungry. Now I focus on one more unnecessary chore, like maybe sweeping or straightening up the bathroom. Then I focus on something I want to do.
  7. IT IS OKAY FOR THE HOUSE TO LOOK LIVED IN! Please keep this in mind mamas.

To keep sane you have really got to take care of yourself. This is something that I try to implement a lot! Especially during nap time. Eat something, cause then you don’t have to share it. Do something as simple as brushing your hair, it will make you feel neat again. Something that helps get my mind in order is cleaning my purse and organizing the baby bag when I have some free time. It makes my life run smoother. Take a bath or a shower, even at 10 minute shower can make a difference with a shower fizzy and a quick playlist. These are the things that help your mental health also!

My checklist above definitely plays off of prioritizing. Sometimes you JUST can’t get to it all. And that’s okay. Just do the important stuff. The rest will follow, especially when you get into a routine. And the result is more time to yourself!

My sweet boy taking his afternoon nap!

So update on how I’ve been holding it together with a 6 month old and getting stuff done that really needs to be done. I just take it one day at a time. Even if the days start to blur together. I LOVE being a mom, it still feels so unreal. I haven’t really blogged in a long time, the last 6 months have been focused on my son, my full time job, and now I have a new hobby that has turned into my second full time job, which new post coming on that also, it’s very exciting. 🙂

If you have any other tips on how to get things done during nap time PLEASE reach out to me. I would love to hear them, I’m constantly trying to improve on my time management. The biggest piece of advice I am going to give, that works for me, and just because it works for me doesn’t mean that it will work for someone else, but I hope it does, is to REALLY take time for yourself during nap time, and the prioritize the important stuff first. All that other stuff can wait, you got this!

Children’s Book Club- Post #1

There is A LOT going on in the world right now and the most innocent people in my eyes are children. I believe that with the BLM movements we can teach our children the right way and we can break the cycle and we can make this place a better world for everyone! Kids don’t know the difference until you introduce a difference to them.

So in the midst of all of this going on, it’s been a goal/dream of mine to start a successful book club. I cannot express the love that I have for books and I really pray and hope that my son will take to book really well too! Now if I can find other mom and dad’s to join me! *hint, hint* Any takers?

The first book I am going to introduce makes me think about the innocence of children and also has a link on what’s going on in the world. Kind of.

It’s called All About Friends.

I believe this book teaches the importance of friendships and kindness for others. This is one of the first things you should be teaching your kids when they get of that age where they are understanding and that it DOES NOT matter what the person looks like, or what color they are, we are all the same and each person needs to be treated with kindness.

This will be the first book in the children’s book club that I would love to visit and discuss! If you are interested in joining in with your little ones, you can join my VIP group and my Launch Party that is suppose to be happening on June 17th at 8:30 CST.

This blog post has the sole purpose of promoting my book club and introducing the first book! You can find my links below!

I’m calling for all mama’s and dad’s to join me!

VIP Group Link:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/3043555085734916/

Launch Party Link:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/765412174226498/

Shop My Link:

https://y9606.myubam.com/

Newborn Bedtime Routine- What we use to get a little more sleep!

I don’t know about you other moms, dads, babysitters, nannies, etc. out there but when I’m tired, all I want to do is sleep and newborns/babies/ even toddlers make that hard! It’s not their fault, it’s just what they do, which is totally fine. I love my son, but those 2 AM feedings and wake up times can be rough. 

I’m here to tell you guys about the 3 things that help my little one stay asleep a little longer and fall asleep a little faster so in return I can get a little more rest and sleep myself! 

Bath Time 

My first go to is a nice, warm bath. I’ve gotten into the habit to give E a bath at least every day during the week. Just a quick warm one, we wash his hair and just pour a little warm water on him a few times, and that normally does the trick and calms him down for the night. 

Rain Rain App 

So this one is one I have had for a few weeks now, and it has worked wonders in the middle of the night for us! Usually the sound of the tv is enough when he is just laying down to go to bed, but at 2 am when it’s quiet and all that’s running is the air conditioner, sometimes it’s just not enough! The rain rain app, is free, but they do have a premium version, (that I have caved and paid for) it’s only $9.99 for the premium version, but it really has worked for us and better than any other sound machine we have used. 

It has so many sounds to filter through! Our favorite is “rain on a tent” and “campfire”. You can mix different sounds and I just play it on my phone, and stick it in between his dock a tot and bassinet (the lounger sits in the bassinet) and within 2-3 minutes of him fussing he is normally really calm and just listening to the sound. I’m surprised by how well it worked and I’m so glad I found it and got the premium version! 

Hot Heart Massager

I’m a small business owner and we sell these heat packs that’s main use is massagers, but you pop the disc inside of it and it heats up to 139 degrees. It will stay that way for about an hour and 15 minutes. I wrap it up in his thick, fluffy, elephant lovey and place it on his belly. This also helps him when he has an upset stomach! That way he feels like he’s still laying on me, or in bed with us, because of the “heat transfer”. As soon as he’s asleep, I take it off of him. You can find it here!

A few other tips that seem to help in the middle of the night feedings, is leaving the lights off when you feed, and staying in one spot. My little one does not like to be bounced or walked with whole trying to sleep! Your little one might be different, but mine doesn’t like it. He goes from bassinet, to my bed and I feed him, and he immediately goes back into bassinet. We might cuddle for 1-3 minutes after he burps, but I never turn the light on or walk with him. 

I’ll also add in that the Ovia Parenting App is a life saver too. It helps me keep track of all his feedings, diaper outputs, and sleep! Because let’s face it, us moms brains aren’t as good as they use to be. It’s actually kind of alarming! It’s part of it though! 

These are just some things that help me and my E get a little more sleep at night! I hope this helps some other moms in the future. If there is something that works for you, I would definitely love to know!  

My Diaper Bag- What kind and what’s in it?

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A diaper bag is a VERY important item when you have a baby. It’s a crucial one! When I was picking out diaper bags I didn’t really know what kind I wanted or which one would work best for us. We were gifted 2 at my baby showers, which I’m extremely thankful for! I used them for the first 3-4 weeks, and they worked wonderfully. 

The two I had was the Eddie Bauer Backpack in grey and Ergo Baby brand diaper bag. Not sure what the name of the bag was. They are both great bags, but I wanted something a little more stylish and convenient. Like I said before, something that works for us! 

My Idea of a PERFECT diaper bag!

So I went on the hunt for the perfect diaper bag for us! When I was looking for one I made it a point to have a bucket like style because it’s so much easier to find items in it. Normally the bucket style has pockets that circle the inside, along with more pockets on the outside!  

I still wanted the backpack straps and the long strap in case my husband wanted to carry it in that form. 

Lastly, I wanted something really cute! Because let’s face it, I won’t be carrying a purse anymore. I’ll be putting my sons life and now, mine in this bag when we go out! 

My Diaper Bag

I bought two different ones. I made the mistake of not checking Amazon first, but the first buy was totally worth it! 

The first bag I bought was from Fawn Design. I LOVE their bags! I wanted to buy all of them. The bag I purchased was from the wildflower collection. The color is called bluebell and I bought the mini bag, instead of the original. The original is priced at $169.99. They are vegan leather, which is why I think they are priced so high. I bought the mini because me and E don’t go many places, so I needed just enough room for a bottle or two, diapers, wipes, and a change of clothes.

This bag has two side pockets, 1 open front pocket, 1 front zip pocket, and a large open pocket in the back. It is the bucket style backpack and also comes with a long strap! You can find the bag by clicking here.The inside has 4 open pockets, and a zip pocket! It’s completely convenient and it fits everything I need it too. The bag retails at $94.99! This was my Mother’s Day present to myself. I had a 15% coupon for signing up for the emails as a new customer, so it brought my price down to around $87. This bag was totally worth the buy. You can find this bag by clicking here!

The second bag I purchased was basically a dupe of the mini one I had purchased but it was the size of the original. It was $50.99 on Amazon. You can find it here! The only difference is it’s a honey brown color, and not vegan leather. It looks EXACTLY the same though. This one actually came with stroller straps, the long carry strap, and a changing pad! I purchased this one to have if we stay overnight somewhere or if we are going to be gone ALL day and with my husband. Cause we all know how husbands are, well mine always asks me to put all his junk in my bag. So. It now has to carry all three of our things. 

What’s in our diaper bag? 

So our daily bag consists of:

  • Pack of Wipes 
  • A few diapers, usually around 4-5
  • 2-3 Bottles (Pre-made)
  • A travel size baby powder
  • A travel size Aquaphor lotion. 
  • A reusable wet bag
  • One onesie (change of clothes Incase of a blowout)
  • Burp Cloth 

The back pocket I normally use for my iPad and I just clip my keys and hand sanitizer to the outside and my wallet fits perfectly on the inside! 

This is just my everyday items for if we are running to the store or the park or just around town! 

It’s not everyday we are packing up for out of town or overnights so my mini bag works just fine! 

I really hope other moms find this helpful, along with the review! I am still learning about all the other neat, cute items they have for moms and babies now days! Someone that isn’t even a mom can use this bag as a purse also! It could go both ways! You can find pictures of both bags below!

Mental Health Awareness Month- Postpartum Anxiety

Postpartum Anxiety (Postpartum Panic Disorder)- when the sufferer feels nervous and has recurring panic attacks.

OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder)- having a tendency towards orderliness, perfectionism, and great attention to detail.

First Time Mom Anxiety- How I’m Feeling

The definition defined above is when the sufferer feels nervous and has recurring panic attacks. I whole heartedly agree with this. I feel nervous ALL the time. I feel like no matter what I have done in the last 4 weeks, I have been overly nervous. I just start shaking and crying. It gets really bad at nighttime right before bed. I think it’s because during the day I don’t have time to think about much between trying to catch up on housework and sleep, and take care of my son, and on top of trying to do things that make me sane, like take my hot baths, my skin care routine, running my blog, and exercising. It’s actually a lot. So when I go to lay down at night, I just feel this overwhelming wave of emotions come over me, and I can’t help myself. It doesn’t happen every night but on some nights, it does. It makes me feel terrible. 

I also feel like my OCD has ramped up since being home. Maybe because I don’t have work or anything else to keep me busy, and being in quarantine definitely DOES NOT help. I feel like if one little thing is like out of place, it makes me want to spazz out. It’s not a good feeling at all. I feel like I have been cooped up for way to long.  If you have this OCD problem, then you know how I feel! It’s rough! 

Bringing Awareness

The more that I sit and think about it, I don’t necessarily think there is lack of awareness, I think there is more people in denial. I mean there is always something going on in someone’s head, we can’t quite rate that on a scale because it’s always going to be different than what we ourselves are going through. So there is different kinds of awarenesses we can bring to certain/different situations. I believe no matter what though, you should be kind. No matter the situation/problem. I believe that everyone should be courteous of how others feel and always take into consideration, that even though this person doesn’t seem like there is anything wrong, that maybe there is. So just be kind. That always makes someone feel better, which in return brings awareness to the fact that you weren’t mean and took in their feelings without discerning what they feel and rating it. 

Things That Calm Me

A few things tend to calm me down when I’m having a tiny anxiety attack. 

  • Telling my husband about it. No, like seriously. Talk about it. If you say it’s happening, then it’s really happening. The only way to feel better is to talk it out. This way you can get your thoughts in order. 
  • Take a hot bath. This always helps me tremendously. The hot water to me is so relaxing! Plus I ALWAYS feel so much better and clean after! 
  • Read a book. When I open someone else’s story and problems, mine disappear for a short amount of time! 
  • Snuggling my babe! This is a new one, but now that my little boy is here, one look from him and it makes me feel so much better. Those dishes and laundry can wait. They make you crazy anyway. 

My Advice

The older I get, the more I understand this whole mental health thing. When I was younger I guess I was constantly thinking about what I was doing right then and there and not about tomorrow or next week, really I didn’t think. I didn’t think before I did anything. Therefore most of the time leaving my life a mess. Now I think WAY to much, and still feel like I don’t think enough or take things into consideration much, even though I do, way more than I should! This causes me anxiety. I’m more aware now of when I’m doing it, and I even tell myself when I’m doing it. 

My best advice for keeping the anxiety at bay, is to honestly take a deep breath and have common sense. Anytime I feel anxious, I think of things I do know. Or things I already feel in control of. This helps me logically think of a solution to my anxiety, and then I can control what’s in front of me or how I’m feeling at that moment.

Overview

I guess the point of this blog is to talk about how I’m feeling, and what I do to kind of control it. That’s the whole point of Mental Health Awareness right? You talk about it and that brings awareness. No one will ever know how you are really feeling unless you tell them. This in point, you are making them aware that you don’t feel good. It’s their reaction to hopefully be kind, and in return making us feel better. 

Items That Saved my Life- Baby’s First Month

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Let’s face it, it’s not all rainbows and butterflies when you bring a newborn home. We are now 12 days in with our newborn being home and it has been amazing- and there have been parts where I am like, what the hell am I doing?

This will be fairly short, I am just going to compile a list of items that have helped me tremendously in the last 2 weeks. I really hope that they help some of you too! I think I’ll include some that haven’t been so helpful, also.

Life Saver Items

  • Boppy Pillow– This pillow can be used for literally so many different things. I’ve talked about this pillow in a previous post I believe. This thing can be used for nursing, propping the baby up, or just simply using it as a neck or cuddle pillow. I have also been using it to sit on with my broken tailbone! (Story of this coming later.)
  • Burp Cloths– Lord you will need a lot of these, and you can never have to many, so STOCK UP!
  • Wubbanub– Okay, so even if you don’t plan on using a pacifier, plan on people still getting you one. & If you do plan on using a pacifier, then we LOVE our wubbanub. My son loves to cuddle this thing, and it helps soothe him. We don’t push the pacifier, we only give it to him to hold him from crying while trying to make his bottle, and he sleeps with it, like a stuffed animal, except he never has the paci in his mouth. I think he just likes the stuffed animal attached to it more than anything!
  • A Plain Towel- Yes, I said it. Always have a plain bath towel near by. Not a wash cloth, but just a plain bath towel. I can’t tell you how many times I have used one in the last 14 days for diaper changes. My child has made it a point to poop on me or the furniture every time during a diaper change. This makes the clean up SO MUCH EASIER!

Items Not Needed

  • A Bottle Warmer- Honestly we have two of them and I have tried to use both, and maybe I am just dumb, but I have no idea how to use either of them, and I have put them back into the closet. When I need to warm a bottle up, especially in the middle of the night, I just use a glass bowl of water, and keep it in the microwave and hit the start button for 1 minute and 30 seconds, and then I put the bottle into the water to warm up after the bowl comes out, (you aren’t suppose to directly warm a bottle up (this could make the formula really hot) or breast milk in the microwave (this could kill all the nutrients in it.) While the bottle is warming up, I just change his diaper real quick, grab the bottle, feed him and WALA, done, we go back to sleep.
  • Bottle Cleaners- I got like 15 of those things, a sponge does just fine if you don’t let the bottle sit in the sink all day with gunked up formula and breast milk in it.
  • Mittens- Honestly, I filed my baby’s nails down the first week he was home. Those dang mittens always come off and end up hiding somewhere. It’s really aggravating.

So these are just some things that I found that have been super helpful and not helpful at all! To each their own, this is just my opinion.

Overall

These last few weeks have been so amazing with my little guy. It’s a learning experience for all of us. I really hope that this post will help some new and second/ multiple time moms in figuring out what they really need, or don’t need. It’s all a trial and error, and what works for someone else or for me might not work vice versa.

Thanks for reading!